The Kindness of Sara

by: Cherri Bird

Sitting down to chat over the phone with Sara, I felt like talking about some things that - well, two girls would talk about on the phone. Is that still a “thing” in 2017? Like when I was younger, even in my early 20’s, my friends and I would talk on the phone for hoards of minutes. But do friends still do that now or is it all about texting back and forth? I kinda miss that element of friendship honestly. I mean, there are days when I am literally silent in the loft all day - having 28 conversations with different people and never saying a word: verbally - out of my mouth. Til the Man Friend comes home and then I end up spewing word-vomit all over him. I only stop when I see that his eyes have glazed over or that he just stops responding all together...HA!


So when I thought about my interview with Sara from SILENT RIVAL and sat down to start writing some of the questions we talked about, I decided that I wanted to have the interview be more of a conversation, ya know? Now, I’m not going to tell y’all everything we talked about because a girl’s gotta have some secrets between friends, ya know?


Overall, what's your favorite fashion trend?

My favorite fashion trend is ankle boots. I’m a “no fuss” kind of person so I like that I can slip them on easily and they give a punch to every outfit. I wear my black leather ankle booties 90% of the time and especially with dresses. It gives dresses an edge so that I don’t feel too frilly or dainty.

How big of a part does fashion play in the music industry?

Hmmm… I don’t think there’s really one answer for this question. I guess it plays as much as a role as an artist wants. For me, fashion is a form of self-expression, and so is music. But, my preferred method of self-expression is always music. Fashion is a distant second.

If you're not feelin' it on any given day or your confidence is low, how do you combat the blues or the yucks? How does self-confidence help you in your career; on stage, in the studio, by yourself writing...Do you consider yourself having confidence?

You’re asking all the hard questions! I would say my career does more for my self-confidence than my self-confidence does for my career. The way I’ve always combatted the blues my whole life is by singing. When I’m not singing on a regular basis, I’m not my best self. Singing gives me confidence because I connect with myself and when I do that I find I really like myself! But confidence is something I’ve struggled with in the past. I’m not sure why. Maybe because until I found my band, I thought there was something wrong with me for not having much in common with people. I’ve often times been accused of being “weird” but when I’m with the band, I’m the normal one. And I feel the most like myself.



In 10 years, where do you see yourself? What do you want to change about yourself from now til then?

In 10 years I’ll definitely still be singing and hopefully, I will have established myself enough to be in a position to give back. For the first time ever I don’t want to change anything about myself. Maybe get better at the guitar, better at making it to the gym, and better at putting myself first.




We all have stressful times pop up and when I do and can listen to music, I put on something that will cause a reaction somewhere within. I love putting in a song or artist that I can sing along with. What do you do to de-stress and if it is music that's in your toolbox, what band(s) or specifically what song helps balance you out?

To destress I either go to yoga, the Korean Spa, one of those metaphysics shops to play with oils and crystals and singing bowls. Or I'll try to be out in nature even if it's just my backyard. I definitely prefer to be alone when I’m stressed. It's the easiest way for me to center, because I don’t have to worry about anyone else. When I was a kid I definitely used to turn to music when I was bummed out, but music consumes so much of my day now (thank goodness and I'm very grateful for that) that when I’m stressed I need more silence. Or Sia. Singing along with Sia is super cathartic.

Your go-to karaoke song?


“Natural Woman”! It's a crowd pleaser and really fun to sing.

Best experience you can take away from recording "The Kindness of Strangers”?

Being finished with it! It was rough man. Fun, but rough nevertheless. But after we were finally done and we met with Matt Wallace and our manager to do a final listening session and approve it, I remember driving home and I called Joz and told him I thought the album was perfect. And he agreed. And he’s tough to please. Every now and then Joz or our manager will chime in with some silly little thing that they wish was different about the album and I just freaking roll my eyes at them. I still think it's perfect. It may never be #1 on Billboard, or maybe if we re-recorded it now it would have been more… something… but to me, it’s perfect because it’s honest. It’s like a crystal clear X-ray of everything that was in our hearts at that time.


I will say that talking like girls was kinda refreshing and I think that this is an element missing from my life; I’m going to work on that - I think. Maybe this is something that is missing in the relationships of people: verbal communication. Hearing the sound of someone’s voice, their tone and inflections are only interpreted via digital communication. And perhaps this is where the division begins with people because we just assume by reading we understand what they mean. We misinterpret their tones and there are absolutely no vibrations from their “voice” over email or there’s nothing to connect us to.


Those connections are what, IMHO, binds us to or retracts us from, the people we are in communication with daily. This is also true of music; those connections make us feel the things an artist is trying to convey or is trying to keep within themselves. Those vibrations are what attach us to the earth or to being alive.


However corny that might sound, I believe it is totally true. I can lock myself up in the loft to write for a few days and the longer I go without talking to others, the more distant I feel or the less connected. Try it...well, I don’t mean to lock yourself up in your house or anything! Just try talking to someone instead of texting...see what happens!


Look for SILENT RIVAL’s debut “THE KINDNESS OF STRANGERS” and listen to the track on Spotify! I hope you find the connection with their music as rad as I did! Watch for my review coming soon!


Til Next Time - MRML